This is for sure an interesting topic to discuss. I have debated with many of my friends and most of them where on the other side of the coin supporting "Arranged Marriages".
My Definition of Love Marriage?
You get to know and understand a person and feel that you would jell together and try to make life out of each other.
My Definition of Arranged marriage?
You are either forced into a relationship or you opt out one out of limited choices you are given and try to make life out of each other.
A general comment is that Love marriages see only the positive side of people and later they get into troubles when they experience the negative side. My thought is this might not be true in all cases. The level of understanding the other people varies from person to person, the better you are understanding people, the better the chances of you getting a good person in to your life. Mistakes do happen , but you atleast had a freedom to think on your own and opt for it. Even if it doesn't work out later, it was your decision. I think that regretting for a decision you made is much better than someone else decision that you were forced in to.
In arranged marriages, you are forced to follow someone else decision (your family, society etc.,).
I have witnesssed some of my relatives who ended up in arranged marriage for the reasons of family pressure or social status and now facing relationship breakdowns . They just stick together for social recognition and to me there life's are ruined. The family of these people do feel that they made a wrong decision but they dont have the courage to make them break the fake relationship and let them make a new life there after.
I feel good when i see lot of love marriages happenning right now. But does our society completely recognises it? nope. We still have our father's generation sticking to arranged marriages out of shear social pressure they create among themselves. Atleast it's good that currently not all arranged marriages are forced and people can make there choices.
Let me know your comments on this. Happy to have posted my first blog.
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No Matter, arranged or Love one must be conscious that, it is their life. Love or arrganged is only upto the point of marriage, next is what the couples plan and execute.
ReplyDeleteIn this modern world ravaged with numerous divisions Love marriage has a cutting edge over the later in bringing up a harmonious world.